How many times do we say sorry, not because we feel bad or are ashamed of what we did, but just because we want another person to like us? apologies I enjoyed your article. All Rights Reserved. From fasting to attending synagogue service, this day is considered a Day of Atonement. Oh yes, you'll have a more honest relationship with yourself, too. We should be moving ahead raising our lives to a higher level.”, “When we leave this world, neither silver nor gold nor precious stones and pearls accompany us – only Torah and good deeds.”, “When you look into your heart as the New Year starts, may you discover a new sense of possibility, a new belief in the gifts you have to share, and a renewed commitment to your faith and your dreams. It makes saying Viduy (confession prayers of Yom Kippur) much more meaningful! The challenge along the way is that other players try to knock your pieces back to the start. "Acting violently" can mean acting in a way where the ends justify the means. I wanted him to face what he had done Naturally, if you are bumbling so often in your relationships that you need to apologize on a daily basis, you may need a prescription for a couple of Dr. Phil's self-help books. From fasting to attending synagogue service, this day is considered a Day of Atonement. Providing quality care and education that embraces the development of children’s minds, bodies and souls. Similarly, all the transgressions have deeper meanings: "Afflicting others" can mean speaking too harshly, thereby diminishing someone else's sense of self. My son was teary with shame and acute discomfort, but he eventually managed an apology, which Mr. Simon accepted. The time of the year has arrived when we are supposed to ask for forgiveness. Have a Happy, Healthy New Year!”, “The accomplished apple is God bulletin of adulation to all of us. And we all get a second chance in life.”. It is therefore healing for both parties involved. If not, we need to seek out help. It makes saying Viduy (confession prayers of Yom Kippur) much more meaningful! Knowing the more accurate Hebrew immediately makes the concepts more accessible. ]” (Mishneh Torah “Laws of Tshuvah” 2:1). The first to do this wins. St. Louis, MO 63146 Many years ago, when one of my sons was eight years old, he misbehaved badly in class and the teacher, Mr. Simon, called to tell me. "At the New Year, with special thoughts of you, and a wish that the year ahead will be filled with peace, happiness, and good health." If we have an anger problem, we can start by saying, "I'll try to lose my temper one less time each day." Many Jews carve out time for self-reflection during the High Holiday season, take on a new mitzvah, or try to overcome a weakness. She rarely used such language, and with such vehemence in her voice! Self-improvement is always a good idea, but certainly the period between Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur provides an ideal opportunity. Those where the people use basic manners to each other. 314-432-5700, © Copyright 2020 St. Louis Jewish Community Center. Thank you for this very timely reminder that when it comes to saying I am sorry to Hashem we know we will be forgiven - therein lies the trust! Judaism teaches that during these days, G‑d is more available to us than ever, waiting for us (yes, us!)